The importance of the group of people or the community around the relationship is one thing that usually goes unacknowledged.
Attraction has always been interesting to me… I think it is for most people. It’s how Alicia and I landed each other and how all epic romances start and flourish. Yet, it often remains in the shadows, isn’t talked about directly, much less studied.
My first few long term relationships ended because they or me, usually, both, didn’t have space for what was arising. We chose our judgments over the relationship. In hindsight, at least my judgments were usually wrong…
17 years ago I discovered the true source of a woman’s attractiveness.
In my experience, women are inherently interested in being attractive.
But here is the thing. I am not talking just physical beauty here…
Erwan and I were hanging in our bedroom. He was doing yoga, I was on my laptop. I was leaving in a few minutes for a yoga class. We were chatting, relaying logistical information about the rest of the day …
When your toddler schools you in communication. AKA the importance of having support for your relationship life.
People get more turned on on bridges. I learned this at UCSC in 1990 from a psychology professor who studied love.
Some version of how do you have a great relationship is the question Alicia and I get the most.
Yesterday after our morning sensual practices, I thought to myself, “That was fun, like really fun. Especially fun”. I was thinking about everything that made it fun, the factors that went into our sensual time being fun, looking at it in sort of an academic way. Not detached….more like a researcher.